TEXT: *1 Peter 3:1 6
PREACHER: *Pastor Mark Driscoll
DATE: March 15, 2009
Three general categories that describe many marriages:
1) Non-Christian Feminism
No distinction between the roles of husband and wife. They live parallel lives, legally married but functionally single.
2) Christian Egalitarianism
No distinction between the roles of husband and wife. They also live parallel lives, but often share some unifying, ephemeral elements (e.g. kids, hobbies, church).
3) Christian Complementarianism
Husband and wife fulfill distinct and equal roles. They live as one together under Gods authority with unified purpose.
h3. Wives are to follow their husbands leadership
Husbands are commanded to love their wives as Jesus loves the Church (Eph. 5:25); Jesus died for the Church. Jesus example guards against chauvinism and other abuses of the principle of submission.
Ways a husband can handle disagreements with his wife: Pray and discuss with your wife. Be patient. Wait for her to come around.
Appeal to a higher authority (pastor/counselor).
If the matter is pressing and/or a decision cannot be reached, the husband must decide. His wife should submit to the decision.
h3. Wives are to preach wordless sermons
Those who have unbelieving husbands should not nag or be preachy, but rather love, serve, and respect their husbands, praying that God would use these actions to soften the husbands heart.
h3. Wives are to cultivate true beauty
There is nothing wrong with outward beauty, but it is fleeting and deceptive (Prov. 31:30). Holiness is true beauty. Godly wives have a quiet and gentle spirit; they are not silent, but prudent (knowing when and where to speak).
h3. Wives should seek to know exemplary women
Peter gives Sarah as an example, and the Bible is clear that she is flawed. She is exemplary for her honesty and repentance, not because she is perfect; she ultimately did submit to God and to her husband.
h3. Wives should fight fear
Fear (what if it doesnt work out? what if Im unhappy? what if my husband makes a bad decision?) makes life miserable and should be fought against by faith.
h3. Submission Does Not Mean:
A husband is in ultimate authority.
A wife does not have independent thoughts.
A wife does not seek to influence her husband.
A wife must obey her husbands command to sin.
A wife is less intelligent or competent than her husband.
h3. Submission Does Mean:
A husband and wife are equal with complementary roles.
Wives are to submit like Jesus did in Gethsemane (Luke 22:42).
Husbands are to lovingly lead like Jesus does the Church (Eph. 5:25).
A single woman should only marry a man she can follow.
Christian marriage shows the Trinity and the gospel.
h3. Book Recommendations:
The Feminine Appeal, by Carolyn Mahaney
Marriage to a Difficult Man, by Elisabeth D. Dodds
Mrs. C.H. Spurgeon, by Charles Ray
When People are Big and God is Small, by Edward T. Welch
Calm My Anxious Heart, by Linda Dillow
This clip is taken from the sermon "Trial: Marriage and Women ," preached by Pastor Mark Driscoll at the Mars Hill Church Ballard campus in Seattle, Washington, on March 15, 2009. It is the 9th sermon in our sermon series, "Trial: 8 Witnesses from 1 & 2 Peter."
To watch the full sermon, visit: http://www.marshillchurch.org/media/trial/marriage-and-women