Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Did You Stop Beating Your Wife?

by Kim Riddlebarger @

Muhammad%20Al-Arifi.jpgYes, I know this is a trick question (along the lines of "can God make a rock so big he can't lift it?").

But in this case, this is no joke. According to a popular young Saudi cleric, who is well-known for giving marital advice, young men should learn how to "properly" beat their wives. Apparently, there is a right way and a wrong way. (click here: - Saudi Marriage 'Expert' Advises Men in 'Right Way' to Beat Their Wives - International News | News o)


"Admonish them – once, twice, three times, four times, ten times," he advised. "If this doesn't help, refuse to share their beds."

And if that doesn't work?

"Beat them," one of his three young advisees responded.

"That's right," Al-'Arifi said.

He goes on to calmly explain to the young men that hitting their future wives in the face is a no-no.

"Beating in the face is forbidden, even when it comes to animals," he explained. "Even if you want your camel or donkey to start walking, you are not allowed to beat it in the face. If this is true for animals, it is all the more true when it comes to humans. So beatings should be light and not in the face."

His final words of wisdom?

"Woman, it has gone too far. I can't bear it anymore," he tells the men to tell their wives. "If he beats her, the beatings must be light and must not make her face ugly.

"He must beat her where it will not leave marks. He should not beat her on the hand... He should beat her in some places where it will not cause any damage. He should not beat her like he would beat an animal or a child -- slapping them right and left.

"Unfortunately, many husbands beat their wives only when they get mad, and when they start beating, it as if they are punching a wall – they beat with their hands, right and left, and sometimes use their feet. Brother, it is a human being you are beating. This is forbidden. He must not do this."


This is shocking, but comes as no surprise. What dumbfounds me, however, is the desire expressed by so many multi-culturalists about eliminating the supposed patriarchalism of Christianity from the public square all the while touting the supposed glories (and wisdom) of Islam.

The quotes above particularly struck me (pun intended), since during our Wednesday night Bible study I was going through Ephesians 5 and Paul's exhortation to the church, "husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the church." Funny, Paul doesn't mention "beatings" or abuse when he talks about the roles of husbands. No, he speaks about loving our wives as we love our own bodies.

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