Covenant vs. Contract in Marriage

Covenant is about what's best for the other person; contract is about what's best for yourself. In a covenental marriage, a couple is in covenant with God through faith in Jesus, and then to be in covenant with one another, and the husband is to lovingly serve and lead the wife as Jesus lovingly serves and leads the church.

This clip is excerpted from the sermon "Men and Marriage," part 3 of Mars Hill Church's Real Marriage sermon series, based off the book of the same name by Pastor Mark and Grace Driscoll. It was preached by Pastor Mark at Mars Hill Downtown Bellevue and released on January 30.

Watch the full sermon here: http://marshill.com/media/real-marriage/men-and-marriage
For more on the Real Marriage book, campaign, and tour, visit:
http://pastormark.tv/campaigns/real-marriage

John Piper - Serve each other in marriage

"Lionhearted and Lamblike: The Christian Husband as Head, Part 1"
Ephesians 5:21-33

Marriage: Partnership

Dale and Susan Mathis at boundless.org deal with marriage partnerships.

They discuss:

• How You Were Programmed

• Finding the Balance

• Scheduling Challenges
  
  
  They Conclude with:Be-Attitudes of Daily Living

• "Be positive. Set priorities by determining what's most important and why it's important. Don't sweat the small stuff. If you tackle mundane chores with a positive attitude and sacrificial enthusiasm, that'll be half the battle.
• Be unselfish. Pull your own weight. Don't expect your future mate to do all or even most of the work. Step up to the plate and do your fair share. On the other hand, don't keep score if you feel you're pulling more of the load. Adjust when needed.
• Be willing to use your skills and abilities. Use your strengths. If he's a good cook and she's a good mechanic, go for it. Don't feel tied to traditional duties. Use each other's skills to your mutual benefit.
• Be a team. Take on jobs as a team — "divide and conquer." Just be sure to choose duties together and compromise when necessary.
• Be servants. Just as Jesus washed the disciples' feet when they least expected it, serve your future mate by doing a chore without him or her knowing about it or by making dinner when he or she has had a tough day.
• Be content. You know there will always be things that need to be done, but avoid becoming discontent and grumbling about what's inevitable. Chores are a part of life.
• Be adaptable to the changes of life. When one of you is sick or working extra hours, pick up the slack for him or her for a while.
• Be careful to use time management. We can always put off those mundane, boring things, but they'll just pile up and get worse. Manage your time so you can deal with chores on a daily or weekly basis, and you'll be better off".

Dale and Susan Mathis work with couples in premarital counseling and serve as facilitators and mentors for their church's premarital ministry. Dale has two master's degrees in counseling and has worked in counseling and human resources for over 30 years. Susan, a former teacher, is editorial director of nine Focus on the Family publications. She has written hundreds of articles and columns for magazines and newspapers.

Dale and Susan make their home in Colorado Springs and have five adult children and one granddaughter.

Their article is an excerpt from their book, Countdown for Couples.